It’s not unusual to hear tales of people keeping family members or friends in the dark about aspects of their finances — debt from credit cards or gambling losses, for example — and how those issues caused problems in a relationship or within a family.
Sometimes, though, there are good money secrets, some of which had positive outcomes — like a grandmother who silently stashed extra money in a retirement account that helped pay expenses in her later years. Or unmentioned savings that enabled someone to leave an inheritance that helped family members. We would like to hear those stories.
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